How much?

I need to understand something. I read a news story today here about a couple of Navy sailors who raped a woman in Japan. Their defense argued that the 12 year sentence handed down was too long and excessive.

Let me catch my breath.

Excuse me? You have just given that woman a life sentence. She will spend the rest of her life trying to put the pieces back together. She will be lucky if it only takes her a few years to get back to some semblance of normalcy.

But 12 years is all they get? We really don’t take it seriously, what rape does to a person. We dismiss it as no big deal. Sure, you will have some physical damage to overcome, but after that it’s nothing, right? Dead wrong. People fail to see the years and years worth of psychological damage, the years of self doubt, the absolute havoc that this wreaks on someone’s life.

I don’t know how to explain to someone who has never been through it what it does. Never mind if that girl already has other issues.

So, exactly how bad does it have to be before 12 years is not excessive? You can get that much time for a drug charge. How much is a person’s life worth? How much is too much before we decide that the “boys will be boys” excuse no longer flies? When exactly is it okay for a woman to feel safe? Or will we keep sacrificing our women so that our “boys” can be “boys?”