You should WANT your kids

I don’t understand why people bother to have children if they don’t want to spend time with them. Listening to one of the mothers at my son’s gymnastics class, you’d think her daughter was some huge inconvenience. You’d think she just appeared, unasked for, like a puppy on the doorstep. No lady. In fact, you and your husband created your child. You chose to carry her and give her life. Now, treating her like you can’t stand to be around her; talking to the other mothers in gymnastics, telling them how much you can’t stand to have her at the house for the summer—that is something I can’t understand.

This all came about because another mother and I were discussing our homeschooling plans for the upcoming school year. The other mother is homeschooling her daughter for the first time- kindergarten. My son is now in first grade, and we’ve now spent over a year homeschooling. She is from another country. So, she was getting advice and tips. Hearing this, the mother of the other poor little girl began her put downs. “I just don’t understand how you can deal with your kids all day every day without a break.” “I couldn’t be home that much.” “I have to get out of the house, I have to get her out of the house.” “I love my daughter but I just couldn’t deal with her full time. I can’t wait for her to go back to school.”

I looked at her sweet little toe-headed five year old and thought of how it must make her feel to have her mother tell strangers that she doesn’t want to deal with or be around her all the time. That can’t do much for a child’s confidence. Children experience enough judgment and criticism from the world around them. At least their parents should want to spend time with them, feel compelled to do better for their kids. If you don’t want more for your kids—and not just want more but be willing to provide it—who will?

This is not an incitement on parents who public school. People send their kids to public, private and charter schools for many reasons. They also homeschool for many reasons. Sometimes those choices boil down to a “this is the best we can do for now” situation and many times it boils down to “this is what I think is best.” All of those are perfectly acceptable. What I am baffled at, are the parents who say things like “I couldn’t deal with her full time.” If you can’t stand to be around your kid, its because YOU did something wrong. Children are a reflection of their parent’s parenting skills. All children deserve to feel loved and wanted, no matter their parent’s choice of schools.

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Ain’t nobody got time for that….

Just a random point of interest… shouldn’t homeschooling actually involve being at home?
My son is only six, but it has already begun. The day to day scheduling of “Mom, I want to do/go….” For anyone who thinks that homeschooled children are weird and lack thorough socialization, you clearly don’t know what you are talking about. While, yes, there are some weird homeschooled kids out there, most homeschooled children are perfectly normal kids. And anyway, little Timmy eats paste at his “perfectly social” roomof25ofhispeers public school. Some kids are just weird. The trench coat mafia certainly did not begin in a homeschool co-op, though I am certain there are some homicidal maniac teenaged homeschool kids out there too.
But I digress.
My son had me sitting in an auditorium for hours on end today while he auditioned for a play. He got a part—a whirlybird in Hansel and Gretel—that I admittedly have no idea what it is or what it does. But, I guess I will find out at rehearsals on Wednesday and Thursday and the two shows on Friday. And he will be able to tell me all about how he loves it on the way to his gymnastics class, also on Thursday morning.
Lessons? Like bookwork? Oh yeah, we do have to find time to accomplish that. We do have Tuesday and we did try to get through some of it this weekend. However, we didn’t get as much done as I would have liked due to my son’s desire to participate in a study at George Washington University about how children hear and speak; A study that earned him $100; A study that also tested his vocabulary and gave it an age equivalency. I found another reason to homeschool—apparently my son would be a curve killer. His vocabulary ranked in the 19+ age range. Did I mention he was 6? Yeah, that is absolutely going into his portfolio.
Of course, one cannot be in Washington DC and resist the temptation to visit at least a few of the museums. So, we went to gawk at the Van Gogh’s and Picasso’s at the National Gallery of Art. And, we dipped in at the Museum of the American Indian. Who could resist lunch at the Smithsonian Air and Space Museum and an IMAX movie? And of course, while we were right there we had to check out the children’s area.
Yeah, homeschooling is a tough life.
The part that blows my mind? Traditionally schooled children often do the same kind of activities as my son. How do their parents cope? I don’t think I could handle it. I lack the patience. And the energy. You homeschooling Moms know what I’m talking about? ;o)